Lesson 7

Besides the obvious roles of getting him drunk, dragging him into strip clubs and filling his head with inane commentary from the Simpsons or whatever piece of puerile claptrap Adam Sandler is shilling this week, a man's buddies are ostensibly there to watch out for his best interests: which might prove to be a problem.

You're new on the scene. They're going to be (justifyably as it turns out) suspicious of you and your intentions. They might begin to notice his descent into your clutches and attempt a rear-guard action to prise him away from your grasp. And here's the problem. He has years of experience with his friends, he knows and (except for that time with the donkey and the handcuffs) trusts them completely. So whatever they say to him he is going to take very seriously.

But you have the greatest weapon of all. His libido. Just remember: simply listening to that friend of his gives you a headache and gets you out of the mood, right? It's impossible for you to feel intimate with him for at least a day after being exposed to his unwanted comrade, isn't it.

Just make sure that the night after you've been huffy and withdrawn you put on a hell of a pyrotechnic display in the bedroom and apologise for the night before during the lull after the storm. You know, that time when the endorphins flooding his body still prevent normal brain function. You're sorry you were upset, you try to get on with him, but he (1) said something sleazy to you once as a joke, but it really wasn't (2) looks at your boobs when your boyfriend isn't looking (3) treats his own girlfriend unaffectionately (4) heck, you can be creative can't you? It's all about building doubt in your man's mind about the quality of his friendship with your rival.

Now here's the rub. You don't want him to have no buddies at all, you just want him to have the right ones. Heaven knows, once whispers of being a 'cold bitch' begin to circulate that kind of image is hard to defrost. Particularly if there is a teensy pinch of truth to it (Hey, don't be offended if you are. It's a strength. Really it is). So, be super friendly and garrulous with the friends (and girlfriends of friends) that you approve of. Suggest intimate dinner parties, go to concerts with them, even go camping and the such. Do the kind of things that couples do, and as each day goes past you will gradually distance your man from the undesirables in his circle.

Lesson 6

Ever noticed how as soon as you go on a diet the things you aren’t supposed to eat are the ones you crave the most? That bowl of pasta you didn’t care for two weeks ago is suddenly all you can think about as soon as you start that low-carb diet. It’s because we all want what we can’t have. And this is especially true for men. And what a man can’t have, he will do anything to get. And when he’s willing to do anything to get you – that’s exactly when you’ve got him.
One way to start this process is to turn him on when he knows he can’t have it. That early morning meeting he just has to make is an ideal time to steal the upper hand.
Other “Want it but can’t have it moments” include:

Dinner at his mother’s house.
A solemn moment in church.
A change room at the mall.
When he’s away on a boy’s weekend.

These are all precisely the time you should whisper naughty little thoughts in his ear that will rattle his dirty little mind.
Then when we rushes home from work, or home from church, his mother’s house, or the boys weekend, let him now the moment’s passed. The mood has gone, now you just want to snuggle.
Of course there’s nothing wrong in doing more than snuggling… but here it’s on your terms and he’ll be do everything he’s learnt from his Casanova handbook to try to sway you. And that’s just means more for you.
So keep him guessing. After all a man is never more attentive than when he is standing at attention.